Theorizing about Facebook’s effect on society must sell magazines. In The Atlantic this month Stephen Marche’s cover story, “Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?,”
is about loneliness in general, not Facebook in particular. Describing himself as a Facebook lurker rather than an active user, Marche’s
Facebook link at the end of the story leads to a Public Figure page (pictured above) with
81 followers, and he doesn’t seem to have a personal page, so how much can he really know about Facebook?
with experts, none of whom confirm his outlandish proposition that
Facebook may cause loneliness, Marche concludes that, OK, Facebook use may
not cause loneliness, but it has changed the nature of solitude.
Here it is, after nearly five thousand words: “What Facebook has
revealed about human nature—and this is not a minor
revelation—is that a connection is not the same thing as a bond, and
that instant and total connection is no salvation, no ticket to a
happier, better world or a more liberated version of humanity. Solitude
used to be good for self-reflection and self-reinvention. But now we are
left thinking about who we are all the time, without ever really
thinking about who we are. Facebook denies us a pleasure whose
profundity we had underestimated: the chance to forget about ourselves
for a while, the chance to disconnect.”
I suppose there’s a grain of
truth here about the changing nature of solitude (not loneliness), but does it really warrant a 5000-word cover story from
someone who clearly doesn’t like Facebook and doesn’t want anyone else
to like it either? Writing about solitude rather than loneliness would have been a more interesting direction.
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